Speaking Mute - 005 - "Romance"

 

It is going to be the fifth episode of 'Speaking mute',  one thing which is constant in all past episodes is that a Love or the Craving which was spoken by me. But cravings are feelings which make us feel we want it, but we don't know how to get it. As I was only talking about my failures, Let me talk about my dreams today on 'What is Romance?'. This is ‘The Speaking Mute', an Oxymoronic way of saying what my thoughts are. 

When you meet a person, you usually will be able to catch the vibe they have. The spontaneous talks and likes and dislikes, just by talking to them. But when you both start to read them and act depending upon it,  the first stage of Romance. Then start texting. It is maybe cliche to look, but I would say it can be best, but please text as if the person is in front of you, and try not to ghost(worst behaviour). Even the busiest person gives time for his personal life. Try getting to know each other slowly. What his/her likes and what his/her dislikes. The opposite person also needs to question you or else it is going to get awkward. 

If they start to keep one step, then only you can also keep one step. - Gautham Vasudeva Menon

Then slowly ask them out. Make it a commitment and take a time of Two hours. Slowly talk with them about their belief and interest, And remember you can lie only Three times to the person. More you lie either you will lose track of it and get caught or watch Ante Sundharaniki on Netflix to get to know more. More the time you spend you will know what it is with them is it need to befriend, relationship or not working. This takes around 4 months. If not working please go to their face and say to them, your mother didn't raise a person who hurt others by ghosting. There is no don't know and maybe when it comes to this phase. Playing safe doesn't mean you gonna be safe all time. Think about a time when you were in love and said to be friends and he/she gets committed to another person. Even though she is better or not you will get hurt. don't lie to yourself and mainly to your Feelings. At the end of the day, it is for you and not others. There is no place where all are happy nor where all are sad.

I think sometimes when we find love we pretend it away, ignore it, or tell ourselves we're imagining it. Because it is the most painful kind of hope there is. - Rae Carson

Then the person needs to move to propose that please be my girlfriend. You mean what to me. Then you both promise that we won't lie to each other and be true to ourselves in this act. There is nothing to be ashamed of being in rejection. Instead of fearing and having the worst feelings about not proposing. You can at least have the peace that you projected your feelings.

There are times dearest, when I am Convinced I am unfit for any human relationship - Franz Kafka - Letter to Felice

Share your favourite songs with her. Share your Playlist. Share your thoughts, books, Photos, and whatever you think you can share with her. There is no eww in these things only aww in everything that you do.

In the end, whether this is my imagination or maybe some Hard to achieve relationship goals or a great scene from Maniratnam, GVM films or any romance-based book or film. But I can assure you one thing. When they made laws for Gases to understand their chemistry, they had to first find it ideal and then apply it to real life to find the Problems and the reasons so that they can be understood better. I guess that is what love and life are.

Ok, enough of my random Romance. Let me know yours in the comments or in DM. Till then Goodbye.

P.S: Maybe I would also have a normal approach to friends in the same way as mentioned because I'm just having a poor time upgrading my flirting and romance skills.